A warm welcome to my Vagina Vlogalogs! This is number 1.
I have reached the wonderful age of 68 now and rather like a well matured wine a richness has entered my life, as in I feel totally free to express myself and my wisdom whichever way I choose to, without giving a hoot as to whether it is socially acceptable or approved of by anyone.
I feel we are all being called to truly stand up, speak up and shout out what it is like to be a love empowered woman in this 21st century and how life has evolved (or not) to equality, as we would like it to be.
When I was young, talking about ‘vaginas’ was a definite no, no.
Anything to do with that area was described as ‘your nether regions’ or ‘ those bits down there’. If you had to go to the doctor you prayed it would be a woman clinician that was seeing you and not a man as this would be embarrassing to the ‘n’th degree. (not sure that last has changed much, for many reasons).
As we witness time and time again it has also not been PC to talk about sexual or physical abuse particularly sexual abuse. It was a family secret, well hidden and no one acknowledged the fact that it was very common. It seems to me it came about in epidemic form due to the religious distortions and dogma prevailing particularly in the 20th century.
Thank Goddess we have moved on most decidedly from most of that however there are still issues that are playing out that do need to be brought into the Light!
As a Spiritual teacher, coach and mentor as well as a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and energist, (I wear many qualification labels which I am happy to trail out if called upon to do so), I have seen clients who are suffering greatly on many different levels from abuse in their present life, childhood and or, past lives. Not just sexual and physical abuse but mental and emotional abuse as well.
So, back to our nether regions……
Our beautiful vaginas have been called some horrible adjectives by some men and indeed some women, the short 4 letter one being the one that I really find challenging to hear. This denigrates that sacred part of the female body, and of course this is closely followed by every name under the sun given for our beautiful breasts. that exist to feed and nurture our young.
Some have had a field day, laughing at us, putting us down, insulting us, exploiting us, pimping us, trafficking us, mutilating us and in some cases, holding us in fear.
I have a great sense of humour however most of what I hear is just not funny and they are ignorant of the very low vibration their words hold. When you hear a ‘blue’ comedian these days, it is usually very female offensive and then there are female comedians trying to be as bad, if not worse. Presumably they work on the, “if you can’t beat them, join them” theory.
Unfortunately for about 2000 years plus, this patriarchal behaviour has been accepted as part of the norm, it is OK for men to rule the roost, to use, abuse and ridicule women, women are to be subservient and cowed into a servile secondary role.
Anyone approaching being feisty or empowered would be dubbed as ‘cheeky’, ‘full of herself’, and that kind of comment.
We have started to address this stuff I am glad to say with more and more women stepping up to the plate and saying, “ it doesn’t have to be like this”. We can and I certainly feel I can stop being polite about it and putting up with it with a steely smile.
From my perspective, the biggest thing we need to do is this.
To gain the RESPECT and HONOUR for our beings that we feel we deserve, we first of all have to do it for us.
WE NEED TO HONOUR AND RESPECT OURSELVES TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY!!!
How are we going to do that, this has gone on for aeons? I hear you ask. You are right and the best way forward is to start to bring a quality of LOVE to your life the likes of which you have never seen before.
You are not being asked to condone anyone’s bad behaviour here - please be clear about that! -
However you are being asked to step into forgiveness.
When that is truly done you can set yourself FREE from this past experience and associated cords, hooks and ties to the person who has abused you………
Choose to Liberate yourself now.
Take the following action it is a wonderful act of SELF LOVE and it will go a long way to resolving the issues and bolstering your self-love, confidence and worth.
Take sacred space for about 15 minutes
Have a written list of all the individuals who have abused you physically and sexually.
Close your eyes and one by one, using the power of your imagination, visualise each on in front of you, send love at a simple level to them. They may not be able to look you in the eye. Keep going. Say to them
I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE YOU…(NAME)….FOR SEXUALLY AND /OR PHYSICALLY ABUSING ME ON ….(NAME THE OCCASION, year age )…
I CAN FIND FORGIVENESS FOR YOU AND I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE YOU NOW. YOU HAVE NO POWER OVER ME.
I ASK ARCHANGEL MICHAEL TO CUT ALL THE CORDS AND TIES BETWEEN US AND I ASK HIM TO REMOVE ALL HOOKS ON THIS AND ANY DIMENSION AND TIME FRAME.
I RECALL ALL MY POWER FROM YOU NOW AND RELEASE THE ENERGETIC IMPRINT OF THIS FROM MY VAGINA ALONG WITH ALL CELLULAR MEMORY.
I DO THIS NOW IN THE NAME OF THE HIGHEST OF THE HIGH. I CHOOSE LOVE NOT FEAR AS I RELEASE ALL GUILT ATTACHED TO THIS EVENT,
THANK YOU ARCHANGEL MICHAEL..
Do this exercise for each offending individual. When you have finished come back to the room. Repeat this exercise for 3 CONSECUTIVE days – it will get easier and easier every time you do it, until all the layers of the trauma are removed from your being.
Next time we will look at emotional and mental abuse.
Sending you much love and very well done.